Violence is Masculine

In our society,Men have a monopoly on violence. This is something that I learned recently.And that I wanna that say I learned it the hard way. . . But given that my face hasn’t been smashed in with a glass, nor my teeth knocked out with a fist (as I was threatened would happen). . […]

Man-Hating Men

” You don’t understand what it’s like to be a man, to feel entitled to women’s bodies. You don’t understand what it’s like because you’re not a man. I am. ” ” Most of the violence that happens in this world is committed by men, especially young men. Whether it’s aggression towards women and children […]

One Night Stands

I love one-night stands. I love the moments building up to it: the chase, the teasing, the games of eye contact, the electricity, the thrill of flirtation. I love the moments of decision when you reach that fork in the road, where either the night ends. You go home, rub one out to dispel the […]

My First Sexual Assault

The first time that I remember being sexually assaulted was in the dark, in the quiet, in the safety of my parents’ home, surrounded by my friends. When the guy lying on the floor next to me at a sleepover unexpectedly reached over and tried to feel, through my pajama pants, the place between my […]

Reclaiming the Word Slut

I have a difficult relationship with the words slut, whore, ho, hooker, skank, tramp, bimbo, easy, cheap, promiscuous, . . . I feel like I should be able to remember more synonyms for that term. Given that there was a time when I would use my nails and permanent markers to write, scratch these words […]

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